Good Manners in SL

I can’t believe I even have to talk about this, but good manners are just as important in Second Life as they are in real life. Maybe even more, since you can get blocked or even banned from SL.

My Biggest Complaint

People who hang out at the landing place for a sim and never do anything else. They just stand or sit there, not interacting with anyone. Now, you might wonder what’s wrong with this, as nobody would complain about it in real life (IRL). But here’s the deal: there are limitations on the number of avatars that are allowed into a given sim at any one time. And people who just hang out can be keeping other people from entering the sim—other people who wish to partake of the activities there.

Another annoyance is people who frequent sex sims and complain about the behaviors they may see or hear. The RL counterpart of these people are folks who buy houses near the airport and then complain against the noise. Look, it’s like gay marriage: if you don’t like it, don’t have one. Don’t like what goes on in sexually-themed sims? Don’t go there!

Men Can be Such Douchebags

I’m talking about the men (who I suspect are really teenaged boys behind the avatars) who walk around naked and sporting perpetual hard-ons. I mean, really? Do you get away with that IRL? Then what makes you think it’s okay in SL?

Along with that are the male avatars who seem to think that every woman in SL is interested in sex. Some of us are, some aren’t, and some just aren’t interested in sex with men. Some prefer the intimacy of other women, which often happens without necessarily ending in sex.

My Own Approach

Like what I hope is the goal of the majority of other SL residents, I’m here to have fun, to explore new places, and to perhaps discover something about myself in the process. Treat me with respect, and I’ll do the same for you. But be a jerk, and you’ll find out just how quickly I can BLOCK and DERENDER you.

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Let’s Talk About Griefers and Trolls

It’s fairly safe to say that Second Life is a social medium. And just as other popular forms of social media—Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, etc.—are a forum for haters, griefers, and other assorted low-lifes and bottom-feeders, these parasites have also made their appearance in SL. They come in many forms, and given SL’s design and format, they can also be very creative.

The first is, of course, traditional “hackers” who will try various tricks to obtain your credentials (username, password). If you think this has happened to you, report it immediately to SL! And change your password!

Don’t Accept Candy From Strangers

That was excellent advice when your mother said it, and it’s just as true today. If a complete stranger offers you a box or other gift in SL, don’t accept it; such items have been known to contain malicious scripts that will steal your entire inventory and steal any $Lindens you may have. For more information on account safety, visit the SL Password and Account Information page.

Sim-Wide Griefers

This isn’t quite as widespread a problem as it used to be, but sometimes you’ll be in a sim and messages or objects may suddenly appear and reproduce themselves until everything is obscured and you can’t do anything. The solution? Teleport (TP) out of the area and go somewhere else.

Personal Attacks

Some people come into SL with the sole intent of causing grief by harassing players. Should you come across one of these types, you have several options:

  • Contact Customer Support
  • Make a copy of the conversation log and attach it to the complaint ticket
  • Learn how to use the Block and Derender functions
  • Report the incident to the sim owners or their representatives. If you have a valid complaint against someone, they have the power to ban that person from ever coming back there
  • TP to another place

If All Else Fails

If you’ve tried everything to avoid a griefer and nothing seems to work, just log out of SL. That will put an end to everything, and when you log back in, your system has been set to your default settings.

This is not a complete list by any means. But these tips will go a long way to dealing with just about any problem you might encounter.


Fairytales and fantasy! Until then,

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