Sex and Drugs and Rock ’n Roll in Second Life

How’s that for a catchy title, hmm? Yeah, I knew it would catch your attention!

Yep, this post is definitely NSFW: Not Safe For Work. And definitely not  for the kiddies, so hustle them outside or back to their mobile phones.

There. Are we alone now? Good. I’m going to talk about a subject that is near and dear to a lot of people’s hearts: sex. Making love. Bumping uglies. Making the beast with two backs. Or, to put it plainly, fucking.

Let’s face it: in a world where folks are free to express themselves through their creations, it didn’t take long for someone (or, more than likely, several someones) to realize that there was a market for sexual simulations—and stimulations, too.

FACT: Same-sex marriages have been available in SL ever since the idea of Partnering was introduced.Pretty neat, huh? Well, I think so! And so does my friend Fiona, who recently partnered with her pet, Serena. And they’re planning on a wedding quite soon, I think.So chalk one up for gender and sexual equality in SL!

Although I identify as bisexual in SL, my operator ( the RL human behind the avatar) is a divorced mother of 3, so I guess she’s also bi as well.

Let’s Get Down to the Nitty-Gritty

You can indeed have sex in SL. In fact, for a lot of us, that’s their raison d’etre for even being here in the first place. One-on-one, group, bestiality, orgies—you name it, you can find it in SL.

Pose-balls and Furniture

Pose-balls are just that: scripted items that control the actions and postures of your avatar.  Furniture, on the other hand, are a bit more sophisticated and offer more options than mere pose-balls. You can find them designed for plain-vanilla sex between two heterosexuals, two gay men, or two lesbians. Or multiple partners of all persuasions.

It’s just a matter of finding them. And I’m not going to give you any hints—that would give you insight to my own particular RL perversions—other than to say use the Search feature in your viewer of choice. Suffice it to say that whatever you’re looking for, you’ll probably find it in SL.

Just be sure that whatever your particular kink, it’s not in violation of SL’s TOS (Terms of Service). Specifically, DO NOT engage in sexual acts with child avatars. This can get you banned for life from SL.

It’s also not a good idea because it promotes illegal activity (depictions of child pornography), and the avatar who seems to be coming onto you might very well be part of a law enforcement sting (entrapment) operation which might result in you being arrested in RL. The best thing you can do in such situations is to report any such contact to the powers that be in SL.

Safe sex is so much more than condoms and birth control.And speaking of which, yes, you can indeed get pregnant and give birth in SL. One of the more popular ways of doing that is via Mama Allpa and its associated add-ons. You can find Mama Allpa itself in-world at their main store.

And that, my friends, is all you need to know to begin a fulfilling sex life in SL.Of course, to put things in perspective, you also know as much there is to know about the English language as did William Shakespeare….

Enjoy!

Time Zones and Relationships in Second Life

You know what really sucks? Meeting someone in SL and finding a kindred soul, only to discover that they’re in Australia while you’re on the East Coast of the United States. Not that there’s anything wrong with Aussies—it’s just that it’s awfully hard to maintain a friendship, much less a relationship, because of the time difference.

I had something similar happen to me recently. I made several new friends, but I haven’t seen any of them since then. And that, my friends, is why I urge you to put a note in your profile. In my 1st Life tab, it simply says  EST (SLT +3). EST is Eastern Standard Time, and SLT +3  means that I’m 3 hours ahead of Second Life Time (which is either Pacific Standard or Pacific Daylight Time, depending on the time of year). As Linden Labs are located in California, that’s the default time for the entire SL world.

Some Notes On Your Profile

Your profile is there for a reason. It lets people know a little bit about you. It doesn’t have to be detailed, but at least put something in there! I generally make it a practice to ignore people with empty profiles—especially when they’ve been in SL longer than 6 months.

I’ve even seen empty profiles for people who have been in SL for 7 or 8 years! What that tells me is you’re boring or perhaps too secretive for me to waste any time on you.

As an example, here’s my profile:

It’s pronounced “ash-LEEN.” Yes, it’s Irish. Yes I am…if you go back 4 or 5 generations. And before that, we wuz Scouses.

Harbour Grace, Newfoundland is the ancestral home. See my Picks for more about me.

I am ceann cine (clan chief) of Clan Aisling O’Connor. It’s pronounced “kian kineh.”

And under my Picks:

I’m kinda shy around new people, but I’m happy to join any conversation to which I’m invited. I always answer IMs…so long as they’re not of the “Hi, baby! Wanna fuck?” variety. R and U are letters, not words.

I appreciate people who can form complete sentences and who use proper grammar. What can I say? I’m an English professor in real life.

Those words are accompanied by this picture:

 

And that’s me in a nutshell. But my profile is a living document: I keep it updated to reflect where I am in SL, in relation to friendships, servitude, relationships, and the like.

Don’t be boring! And if you’re too shy to put anything in your profile, you might want to ask yourself just what the hell you’re in SL for in the first place.

As Promised…a Few NSFW Places

With the exception of the first listing, these are locations you don’t necessarily want the kids in the room to see them. They’re adult locations, but that doesn’t always mean they’re all about sex.

Safe:

LC’s World of Fashion – LC Photostudio.  It lists itself this way: streetwear gown dress formal shoe maternita boots free lingerie jewerly store foto latex leather mesh embarazo gravidez maternity pregnacy wedding applier Hair photo studio public Slink Belleza Maitreya free discount offers

And yes, there is indeed a free photo studio, where I took this selfie:


Not So Safe:

Sexy Nude Beach – The Original.  THE Beach in SL to meet others for chat, romance and flirt. Dance, windsurf, paraglide, boat drive or enjoy areas for private moments. nudity nude nudist beach love cuddle club palm plant tree hut pool furniture campfire outdoor beach nude beach tiki

ATWF – Among The WildFlowers.  ATWF – Among The WildFlowers – LOST COVE is an adult community sim – partly public with private spots for rentals. It also has a public nude beach.

Lesbian Island.  Naughty lesbian island,club for Ladies -dj party,lounge nude beach.Fitness Club Yoga Gym workout Massage Spa Sauna Bath beach surf toilet naturist surfing theater cinema porn bowling game lesbian club lesbica lesbiana, bdsm club sub miss pet fetish

Lesbian Island 2 Girls Jus Wanna Have Fun!!!   Awesome place for girls to gather together, make friends meet new ones, and relax and enjoy the company :)) if you need a nice place to chill or dance.

And finally, Mama Allpa Mainstore – *the* mating HUD system in SL.  The ultimate pregnancy experience. Yes, you can get pregnant and give birth in SL.

Safe Holidays!

That’s it for this week. Like a lot of you, I’ll be in a turkey coma for the next few days. I hope you all have a safe and wonderful Thanksgiving Day, and don’t stuff yourselves (well, not too much, anyway!)

See you next week.

It’s Not Always About Hair (redux)

I know. Big surprise, right? After all, SL isn’t limited to buying hair. In your search for a unique appearance, en route to becoming you, you need a lot more than hair!

There’s skins, for example. And a great place to find one is at Lara Hurley Skin, in Magic Valley. Besides a huge variety of skins, there’s also a fairly large selection of quality free skins.

NCI Kuula (New Citizens Incorporated – Help/Classes/Freebies) also offers tons of freebies, including a huge selection of eyes of various colors. Clothes, skins, shapes, hair—if you need it, they’ve got it!

New to SL? Need to learn things quickly? Then either NCI Kuula or Caledon Oxbridge Gateway is for you. In fact, I’ll be there later today to take a class in scripting. Maybe I’ll see you there!

And after all that hard studying, I’m going to head on over to The Blarney Stone, an authentic Irish pub, and toss back a few Guinness’s or Harps. After all, woman shall not live by bread alone!

Are you female? Want a great place to hang out with other women? Then look no further than Girltown at Sansara Annex. It’s an extremely safe place to make your home, since men are not only forbidden, but are actually automagically ejected if they do show up.

These are just a few of the places I like to visit. In my next post, I’ll give you links to a few NSFW places.

Until then,

Ramira: Caught in The Rain? Just in Time for Thanksgiving!

Sometimes, despite all of our best efforts, we get caught in the rain. Or maybe we wake up too late in the morning to dry our hair after a shower before running out the door to catch the bus to work.

Ramira, Alli&Ali Designs Mainstore’s latest design, reminds me of those kind of days…but in a good way:

With a display weight of only 654, and coming in 6 different styles, it’s the perfect do for when you’re aiming for that “just out of bed” look—also known as “erotic disarray.”

The complete set containing all colors goes for $L1500, and there’s a catch: it’s only available at the Dazzle November event until the of 25th November.

But like all catches, the catch has a catch! Each of the individual color sets can be had for $L250 each. And to sweeten the pot, you can grab the free gift in Light Red!

But remember, after the 25th of November, they’re all going away, so grab ‘em while you can!

 

Beliza: An Elegant Updo

This week’s first offering from Alli&Ali Designs Mainstore is Beliza, a formal updo.

Again, notice the low display weight. In case you missed the earlier post, the display weight is basically how many prims the style adds to your avatar. The lower the better, because it reduces lag.

The complete set, which contains all the colors you see above, is $L1500. You can get it in Mixed Platinum for $L50, or in Autumn Cinnamon as a free gift below the voting board inside the Mainstore.

And I’m back to modeling it in my favorite red:

I like this one. But I’d like it even better if a Certain Someone ever gets off her lazy butt and takes me dining and dancing as she promised. (Hint, hint…)

Regardless, I’ll be adding Beliza to my regular rotation of styles.

Beliza, from Alli&Ali Designs Mainstore.

Curls, Curls, and More Curls: Melrosa

This week’s offering from Alli&Ali Designs Mainstore is Melrosa, a lovely curly head of hair that looks good on anyone, no matter the color you choose.

It’s another style with a low display weight, and it’s yours for $L1500 for the complete set, as shown above.

If you’re on a tight budget, Melrosa Fire can be had for $L50, while Variety Colors are $L250 the set.

Finally, if you look below the Voting Board, Melrosa in Dark Rose is absolutely free!

And for the last time, I’m modeling it in one of the Vampire colors. For my next entry I’ll be going back to my usual red hair.

So until next time, I’m signing off with my usual